In this Being In Conversation With episode Kaye shares how we’re either thinking or being and that our personal thinking takes us away from who we really are, it takes us away from being. Being for Kaye is love and love is where the answers are, so thinking that we can find any answers outside of beingness is silly yet so often we look for the answers in our thinking, until we realise that’s not where the answers are. She realises that when she stops thinking then there doesn’t need to be any answers altogether, because there is no thinking happening in the first place.
Kaye has recently seen that if we have expectations of someone else, we believe our well being is dependent on them and that’s not true. Our well being is not dependent on how another person shows up. She can see that in that moment we’re really not seeing the other person’s innate well being and we’re also not seeing our well being either. Our experience is really a 100% from the inside out and when we’re thinking we’re moving away from well being.
Kaye acknowledges that it’s really lovely to to be with someone, and not have expectations or personal thinking about them or in case thinking does pop up, being able to see that we have a choice to believe our thinking or remember it’s a fleeting thought, it’s transient and means nothing in and of itself. Not paying attention to these thoughts allows Kaye to drop back into her beingness and it’s so much easier to listen to the person without having any attachment to them.
Kaye shares about a meeting she recently had where she had thinking that she should have been more strategic or functional, but she could instantly see that life is messy, it doesn’t need to be organised. She acknowledges that as human beings we often have a desire to structure and organise things because we don’t feel there is a structure. However the system behind life is perfect the way it is, it’s random and that’s how quantum leaps happen, they’re not linear. She shares how businesses often get into a habit of trying to organise themselves rather than just being, connecting, loving, exchanging and adding value.