In recent conversations I’ve been having regarding how we (Kaye and I) are going about sharing our understanding of the 3 Principles, I’ve come to realise that in the actual ‘doing’ part of this there’s a completely different feeling to it than anything I’ve ever done in the past.
At one point in a discussion we were speaking about purpose and I realised that for me it’s beyond purpose. Purpose just doesn’t convey the feeling or the sense that I have when I’m carrying out this ‘work’. And it doesn’t feel like ‘work’ either! For me it feels more like just being in tune with what is….
What is already there and what is already unfolding beautifully without me having to think about it much at all really. In fact when I do sit down to think about what to do next it feels completely different…of course I can do that if I choose to but why would I want to put any effort in when there’s no effort required?
It’s not just that there’s no effort required it’s also that I fundamentally know that through “trying” I can come up with something that’s good, maybe even brilliant and it will probably make perfect sense but if I just fall into what is there already, into what life is offering up it’s always even better.
An example of this that demonstrates ‘no effort required’ and something I do fairly regularly these days – is preparing for a talk. So in advance of the talk happening I can set aside some time, probably a few hours and maybe discuss it with others and think about and discuss the following types of thing; who will be there (if I know in advance) and I can attempt to make the topic relatable to this audience, what will be useful for them to hear, how long will it take me to say what I want to share, what questions may be asked and how will I respond, is it relevant enough for this audience, are there any topics to steer clear of, ensure I don’t alienate / offend anyone etc. etc. Gosh I’m getting exhausted just writing it out!!
Or I can have a quiescent mind and reflect for 10 minutes or so and tune into what’s there. A story or even just a few words may bob up to the surface….when my mind is truly quiet something pretty good always comes I’ve used both methods incidentally and what I’ve found is that when my head is full of expectation and what I think I should say there’s very little or no space at all to just say what occurs to me in the moment. And if I’ve reflected and a story or some words have occurred to me, I may or may not share them but I know they’re there. I’m holding them lightly, so there’s space if something fresh occurs to me.
Upon reflection my assessment of each method (this is sounding very official now!!) is that the latter has more impact in a sharing space – the talk comes alive and is useful, the audience are more engaged and I’m present. And I enjoy it more – everyone wins!
I used this analogy with someone we were sharing with recently and it’s bobbed up to the surface to share with you now…….
Trying hard and putting effort into “doing life right” is like sitting at home on your sofa on a Saturday night and thinking ‘how am I going to get home tonight?’
You’ve got all the apps on your phone open trying to figure out where you are, which methods of transport you should use, how’s everyone else getting home, what time is it now, how long will it take, how much will it cost etc. etc.
SIT BACK AND RELAX – YOU’RE ALREADY HOME!!